A new beginning...

Did it ever occur to you that you want to erase an episode in your life? To wipe out someone who caused us pain for us to make a new_exciting_fresh start all over again?

It happened in the movie “eternal sunshine of the spotless mind.” Clementine/ Kate Winslet undergone a radical procedure to have Joel/Jim Carey erased from her memory because she was unhappy with their relationship. Much to Joel's distress, he decided to do the same.

If erasing someone can be done that easily, I wonder how many millions the inventor of that procedure can earn with all those people who would want to escape from their painful past ASAP. But my viewpoint is, who needs that kind of procedure if we can just confront our pain heads on without delay…right away…straight away.

And when hemmed in, just imagine how good it feels to listen to music again without being tortured by past memories…getting our appetite back and dining on the same resto again…talk with friends with a light heart…sleep peacefully again…and entertaining a “new love” again.

While some are uncertain if they will welcome a new relationship yet again, I’m sharing some points I learned from Leo Buscaglia about relationship...a very helpful guide should anyone decide a new beginning…

• Always start a relationship by asking: Do I have ulterior motives for wanting to relate to this person? Is my caring conditional? Am I trying to escape something? Am I planning to change the person? Do I need this person to help me make up for a deficiency in myself? If your answer is “yes,” leave the person alone. He/she is better off without you.
• Write down all the reasons why you love each person you relate with. Then when the going gets tough, take the list out and reread it. It resolves problems quickly.
• Don’t be afraid of disagreements and arguments, the only people who don’t argue are people who don’t care or are dead. After an argument is over, forget it.
• Learn to listen. You don’t learn anything from hearing yourself talk.
• Don’t hold on to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.
• Let go of pride. It is usually false, creates barriers and prevents closeness.
• Don’t allow experience to harden your heart; rather use it to become more aware and sensitive.

While there are so many tips to help us retain and sustain a relationship, it is still a fact that not all stays forever for whatever reasons there may be… but that should not stop anyone in loving again…As they say, “never give up in despair and think you are through. For there’s always a tomorrow, a chance to start anew.”

So time to change theme song now Rescel and sing with me… and now, let the love begin…let the light come shining in…who knows where the road will lead us now...tralala..tralala...